Invaluable Life Advice from Jane Eyre (Part Four)

Books

Welcome to Part Four of this five part list of advice from Jane Eyre, written by Charlotte Brontë. Whether you’ve read the book or not, enjoyed it’s story or despised it, I hope to highlight the areas where valuable life lessons can be learned. Check out Part One, Part Two, and Part Three if you missed them.

1 – Never make big decisions in times of high emotion.

“…you must really make an effort to tranquillize your feelings.” St. John (Chapter 33)

“I will hold to the principles received by me when I was sane, and not mad – as I am now.” Jane to herself (Chapter 27)

Take a breather and distract yourself, always, before committing to an action in a moment of extreme emotional highs and lows. Be careful not to make tough promises when you’re happy, send lengthy gut-spilling messages when you’re sad, or quit your job in a massive angry outburst.

Image result for stressed

We later regret the decisions made and words spoken in those moments, so it’s best to step away, calm down, and decide how to act when our minds have settled down.

2 – Decipher between what’s desired and what’s necessary.

“That I should like to have it is certain; whether it would be judicious or wise is another question.” St. John (Chapter 32)

Image result for choice

Whether it’s a new car or a new boyfriend, it’s important to consider the necessity  and morale of whatever is desired. Is it right or wrong, will it still be wanted a month later? Think about it before jumping in.

3 – Connection is key.

“And you,” I interrupted, “cannot at all imagine the craving I have for fraternal and sisterly love. I never had a home, I never had brothers and sisters; I must and will have them now.” Jane (Chapter 33)

“…there is no happiness like that of being loved by our fellow-creatures, and feeling that your presence is an addition to their comfort.” Narrator (Chapter 22)Image result for family

At the end of the day, we are human and need love and connection from others. That’s what most of us desire in life whether we admit it or not, and connection is what gives life true meaning.

4 – Do not idolize humans. 

“I could not, in those days, see God for his creature, of whom I had made an idol.” Jane on Mr. Rochester (Chapter 24)

Especially when infatuated with a new interest, it’s easy to place him/her on an impossible pedestal. We also do this with celebrities, parents, teachers, and other people in places of high admiration. It’s great to have role models but important to remember that these people are only human too. They will make mistakes and let us down, and that’s normal. To avoid heartbreak, know they’re human, not gods without imperfections.

Admire those who deserve it, but don’t hold them to inhuman standards.

5 – Forgiving enemies from the past will bring you peace. 

“It is a happy thing that time quells the longings of vengeance, and hushes the promptings of rage and aversion; I had left this woman in bitterness and hate, and I came back to her now with no other emotion than a sort of ruth for her great sufferings, and a strong yearning to forget and forgive all injuries…” Narrator on Mrs. Reed (Chapter 21)

Image result for peace

It’s an amazing experience to feel nothing at the sight of an old face that used to bring pain. Forgive, move on, and over time you will also forget. Peace will come as days go by and new friends come and go. Allow yourself to forgive and heal, and you’ll gain true serenity of mind.

6 – Help others. 

“…no service degrades which can better our race.” St. John (Chapter 30)

Image result for volunteer

Give a little change to a person on a street corner with a cardboard sign, pick up some trash in the ditch, clean up a mess so another doesn’t have to…the list is endless of tasks we can complete to help others. It should never be seen as degrading and we shouldn’t feel we are “above” doing something because we’re all human, here on this earth, surviving together.

7 – An experience is only as good as your attitude/mood in the moment. 

“I flew through Europe half mad, with disgust, hate, and rage as my companions; now I shall revisit it healed and cleansed…” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 24)

Image result for mood

Vacations, movies, theme parks, weddings, family functions, and any other events are only enjoyed when you have a clear mind. If you go on vacation immediately following a huge fight with your significant other, you likely won’t enjoy that vacation at all.

The good thing about attitude is that we have one hundred percent over our own. So no matter what happened leading up to today, you have the power to tell yourself to suck it up and have a great day.

8 – Forgive yourself, whether others forgive you or not. 

“…let him look higher than his equals for strength to amend, and solace to heal.” Jane Eyre (Chapter 20)

Image result for forgive

Asking for forgiveness can be hard, especially if the other person refuses to accept the apology. However, nothing is as hard as forgiving ourselves.

Say it out loud, and say it everyday, “I forgive myself.” Over time, you’ll be able to lighten the burden on your heart.

9 – Keep yourself guarded.

“…I should keep him ignorant that harm to me is possible.” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 20)

Image result for guard

Be vulnerable when you need to vent, but keep those against you ignorant of weakness. Those people don’t deserve to see inside your soul to the beautiful person within.

10 – Never let the difficult times darken your spirit. 

“I will break obstacles to happiness, to goodness…” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 15)Image result for obstacle

Keep a fighter’s motivation and push back when times grow arduous. Don’t let the darkness of others and the world around you infect your spirit. Stand strong and know that dark times are bound to change, and push away those people who only bring you down.Image result for book

Thanks for reading this post, and stay tuned for Part Five.

Carly Twelve ^_^

 

Five More Life Lessons From ‘A Christmas Carol’ by Charles Dickens

Books, life

The love I have for this little novel is apparent. However, unbiased, the wise words by Charles Dickens are undeniable.

If you missed the first part, check it out.

Here are five more messages from A Christmas Carol everyone should take the time to consider:

1 – We are all equal in this universe. 

“It may be, that in the sight of Heaven, you are more worthless and less fit to live than millions like this poor man’s child.” The Ghost of Christmas Present (Stave Three)

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA

Seeing oneself as more valuable than another human – whether due to social class, career, or appearance – is absolutely ignorant. Who’s to say one life means more than another? We are one and the same.

2 – Cruelty will come with its own punishment. 

“However, his offences carry their own punishment, and I have nothing to say against him.” Nephew (Stave Three)

“I am sure he loses pleasanter companions than he can find in his own thoughts, either in his mouldy old office, or his dusty chambers.” Nephew (Stave Three)

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA

Holding grudges and seeking revenge is difficult to avoid, however, it’s best that we do stay away from this. Because quite often, people will end up facing their own cruelty in the end.

3 – Let them laugh if they will, just keep doing what’s good for you

“Some people laughed to see the alteration in him, but he let them laugh, and little heeded them; for he was wise enough to know that nothing ever happened on this globe, for good, at which some people did not have their fill of laughter in the outset…” Narrator (Stave Five)

People are going to judge you. It’s that simple. No matter what you find yourself participating in, saying, or believing in – you will be judged. Just do what you feel is right and don’t let others hold you back with their judgement.

4 – Spread the joy. 

“…there is nothing in the world so irresistibly contagious as laughter and good-humour.” Narrator (Stave Three)

“Say that his power lies in words and looks; in things so slight and insignificant that it is impossible to add and count ‘em up: what then? The happiness he gives, is quite as great as if it cost a fortune.” Scrooge (Stave Two)

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA

Laughter and kindness are beautiful. Let us all allow them to radiate from our souls.

5 – It’s never too late to make amends and change your ways. 

“…this is a fearful place. In leaving it, I shall not leave its lesson, trust me. Let us go!” Scrooge (Stave Four)

“But if the courses be departed from, the ends will change.” Scrooge (Stave Four)

“Why show me this, if I am past all hope?” Scrooge (Stave Four)

“I will live in the Past, the Present, and the Future. The Spirits of all Three shall strive within me.” Scrooge (Stave Four)

“Yes,” said Scrooge. “That is my name, and I fear it may not be pleasant to you. Allow me to ask your pardon. And will you have the goodness…” (Stave Five)

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA

Never let the fear that it’s “too late” keep you from setting things straight. The way that others take it is their own business. Do what you have to do to bring peace to your soul whether it’s six or sixty years after damage has been done.


Over 150 years after the publication of A Christmas Carol, we still have much to learn from the priceless pages. We’ve lost a lot of goodness in the modern ways of society, but we each have the power to find those meaningful values once again.

Thank you for reading this post. And I hope your holiday season is filled with kindness and laughter.

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA

All pictures and quotes in this post come directly from the book itself. (A Christmas Carol, Charles Dickens, 1843)

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA