The Top 12 Reasons Why You Should Be Confident in All Situations

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Confidence is easy at times and difficult to find in other moments. Stressful situations, rejection, embarrassment, apprehension, being alone – lots of things can drain any and all confidence we work so hard to muster. Regardless of the scenario, there are 12 major reasons you can be confident no matter what:

1 – They are all sheep.

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It sounds silly, but seriously – everyone else you are facing – they’re all just sheep. Cute, harmless, little fluffy sheep. Don’t let any of these creatures intimidate you because…

2 – You are a wolf.

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And wolves don’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep, right? You are awesome, tough, unique, and just as capable as anyone else out there in the world. Did someone fail to notice this awesomeness in you? That’s because he/she is a sheep. And you’re a wolf.

3 – Life is short.

Whatever happens – even if it’s the worst possible outcome – life is too short to worry about it. Say to yourself, “Wow, that sucks,” and move on. Because worrying about it won’t add any time to your limited lifespan. Don’t waste much time thinking about the “could have,” “should have,” or “would have,” possibilities. It will only ruin your present situation.

4 – Others are likely going to judge you anyway, regardless of how perfectly you perform. 

It’s unfortunate, but some people are just negative. Don’t let the negativity of others infect your attitude. Just do what works for you, because trying to please others will only end in rejection anyways. It’s better to fail at something you care about than to have to face rejection for something unimportant.

5 – You’re wiser than they are.

Others will be placed in front of you to judge and score you, without even knowing much about you. No one will truly understand who you are and what you’re about from an hour long interview. So know that going into an uncomfortable situation, regardless of the outcome, it has nothing to do with who you are as a person. Awesomeness can’t always be seen at first.

6 – Even if they think the worst, you’ll be fine. 

This ties in with #5. If others think the worst of you after the first encounter, that’s their issue. They didn’t have time to get to know the awesome human inside.

7 – Think of all the good things in your life.

When facing the unknown, think of all the amazing things going on in your life. That way, even if something goes wrong, you’ll have the good things to fall back on. Maybe your kids, your friends, your family, your pet, and your intramural league are all going great. Make a list and keep it with you for stressful times when your confidence starts to fade.

8 – We all have a past.

Having a rough past can drain confidence because no one wants to be judged for what she/he did when she was 18 years old. It helps to know that we all have things in our pasts that we aren’t proud of. It does no good to be ashamed of past mistakes.

9 – You have life experience. 

This goes back to how no one you just met knows all the stuff you’ve had to fight in your past. They can judge all they want, but they have no clue the life experiences you’ve racked up.

10 – Other people are only people, too. 

Everyone has insecurities, everyone has been rejected, and everyone has sucky things going on in their lives. Know that you are not alone in unfortunate events.

11 – Everyone has to start somewhere.

Each doctor was once an undergraduate student struggling to pass Biology, each professional was once a clueless intern, and every person at her job had to deal with the “day one” nerves. It’s okay to be new at things because if people avoided being a newbie, no one would ever become anything great.

12 – At life, nobody knows what the hell is going on.

We can all make plans and map out careers and what not, but in reality – nothing ever goes as planned and no one has all the answers. Never be ashamed or embarrassed that your life is a wreck – everyone’s life is a mess. And those who deny that are lying to themselves.


Confidence will falter, it will be low at times, but try to remember/do these 12 things and you’ll feel a boost.

Thank you for reading, have an amazing day. Stand tall, be confident.

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12 Ways To Make the Most Of Life

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Life can be sucky, or life can be great. We all have good days and bad days. Some things are entirely out of our control, but most of the time we have complete authority to make life more enjoyable. Here are 12 simple ways to start making the most out of life everyday:

1 – Change your thoughts to be positive.

Negative thoughts are way more damaging than we realize, and allowing them to continue to pass through our minds all day will create a hostile environment for our souls. The next time unkind thought comes to mind, immediately counteract it with a more positive one.

2 – Spend more time doing things that you enjoy. Actively schedule activities within your week that will make you laugh and smile.

3 – Live in the moment and be mindful. Try not to get caught up in planning and worrying about future troubles. Just breathe and enjoy what’s going on right now.

4 – Take good care of yourself. Being selfless is important and meaningful, but nothing will ever get done if you allow your own health and wellness to falter. It’s totally okay to put yourself first sometimes.

5 – Be kind. This goes for others and yourself. Always be kind, even when it’s difficult. This will keep your spirits up.

6 – Be brave and have an open mind. Try new things. You’ll never know what amazing opportunities for an awesome life await you in the world if you never get out and do some exploring.

7 – Let yourself love. Lowering barriers in order to let others in and allow ourselves to love can be terrifying. When we open up, yes, we open ourselves up to potentially be hurt. But we are also potentially creating a new, amazing friendship.

8 – Never sweat the small stuff. Condition yourself to quickly let go of minor annoyances. If no one is dying or severely hurt, find ways to get passed the situation without letting it upset you.

9 – Understand that life is short. Train your brain to see the big picture. Time is precious and we all need to truly know that one day we’ll be asking for more.

10 – Search for connections. Connecting with others and with ourselves is one of the most exhilarating experiences we can have as humans. Make an effort to meet new people, discover your own values, and experience all the world has to offer.

11 – Avoid judging others and let judgement from other people go unheard. Judgement is one of the most damaging flaws. When we judge others, we only hurt ourselves in return. And when we let the opinions of others dictate how we live, we become slaves to words. Make an effort to live and let others live the way they feel fit.

12 – Be grateful and always show gratitude. No matter how small or insignificant, every act of kindness deserves immense gratitude. Be grateful for everything good in your life from running water and electricity to special friendships.


Implementing these simple rules will lead to a better life. Life won’t last forever and it’s up to us to make the most of the time we have on this planet.

Thanks for reading!

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How to Like Yourself More – Right Now

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The person under the most scrutiny from our judgmental, harsh human brains tends to be – our own selves. I am my toughest, most persistent critic, and I’m sure many others can relate to this.

How could we ever be happy and content with an overly critical voice constantly screaming insults throughout the day? It is difficult, that’s for certain.

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What can we do about this critic from within? How can we silence it and create a new, more positive voice? Having a compassionate, more kind voice in your own head takes practice, but it’s very possible if you take the time to reshape your thoughts.

1 – Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend.

Sometimes the way we speak to ourselves is absolutely cruel and unnecessary. Think of how you talk to a friend when he/she is in need versus the way you speak to yourself in difficult times. The responses are likely completely on opposite sides of the spectrum.

Harsh words to yourself like, “You look ugly,” “You’re so stupid,” and “You should just give up,” are all too common. How often to do say this to a friend? Probably never.

If you find yourself being overly-critical of the way you look, your habits, your words, etc., take a minute to calm down and talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend. Say things like, “You look fine,” “You’re just having a rough day,” and, “You can do this.”

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Would you personally hang out with a person who threw out degrading comments all day? If not, then you shouldn’t have to put up with it from yourself either.

Make a conscious effort to swap up that inner self talk and add in tons of tenderhearted statements.

2 – Talk to yourself like you would talk to a child or a pet.

Here I’m referring that embarrassing, high pitched, baby-like talk that you give your kids and animals. We all have our own personal pet/child language, but they all have the same underlying message of “I love you with all my heart.”

Go all in and spend five minutes in front of a mirror throwing out your most cheesy, childish compliments to yourself. “You’re so adorable, I love you, you are amazing and awesome, you’re so smart, I’m so glad you’re in my life!”

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You deserve as much love as the cute kitty above.

No holding back – it will feel terribly awkward and uncomfortable – but it will help you engrave more positive thoughts into your brain. And it will make you smile as well.

3 – Spend time with yourself.

Quality self-time is sure to open your eyes to the awesome person within. It’s great to be around others, but sometimes it’s necessary to hang out alone with your own thoughts.

This quiet time alone is often something most people avoid – because it can be uncomfortable at first. In today’s world, we’re surrounded by stimulation to silence our inner voices. Social media, texting, talking with others, working too much – all of these serve as distractions from our thoughts. It can be scary to plan time away from the loudness.

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Journal, take a long walk, go see a movie alone – the possibilities for a date with yourself are endless, and will not be as bad as you might think. Once you take the time to slow down and get to know who you really are, deep down, you will start to think, “Hey, I kind of like this person.”

You also might surprise yourself.

4 – Say and repeat affirmations, in a mirror, at least twice per day.

Affirmations are awkward – it’s the truth. But they do grow less and less awkward with time and practice. And after awhile – you’ll even find yourself speaking those corny affirmations inside your head each time you see your own reflection.

The first time I tried to speak a short list of affirmations in the mirror, I couldn’t. I stood there and stared at myself and started crying. I physically could not get the words to leave my throat. But I tried, everyday, morning and night. And then one day, one single affirmation came out. That’s all I managed that day, but it was a huge milestone for me.

Work at it and create your own personal list of affirmations based on what your insecurities and sensitive spots are. Read that list out loud and in front of your reflection everyday and you will start to believe the words on the list.

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Here are some of my personal affirmations as an example:

I’m a good person
I am enough
I am good enough
I’m proud of myself
I love my body
My body is strong
I am smart
I am creative
I am kind
My smile can make others smile
I love who I am
I am unique


If you are tired of talking to yourself with hatred and condemnation, please give the items in this post a try. Give it time, and your self talk will grow positive and uplifting.

Thank you for reading this post and please know that you deserve to be treated with kindness from everyone – especially yourself.

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Have an amazing day!

Carly Twelve