Life Lessons from Super Mario Bros.

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Through the years I’m sure we’ve each had the pleasure of playing some version of Nintendo’s Super Mario Bros. Originally released in 1985, this game is based on a plumber trying to save a princess from an evil creature. The plumber travels through unique worlds, each with odd obstacles, all to find and face the final monster holding the princess captive.

(Even if you are an adult, I would suggest playing this game if you’ve never had the luxury ;))

Whatever the main goal of the game may be, there are a couple of deeper meanings that can be pulled from the missions in Super Mario Bros. 

Here’s what can be learned from playing this game:

[Disclaimer: this posts includes my own opinions. None of this is stated directly in this video game. The points here are just what I, myself, concluded from the game as a whole. I am not part of Nintendo, I own no rights, etc. Just a fan.]

1 – No matter where you come from, you can be a hero.

Mario and Luigi are plumbers. They’re not royalty or knights of the kingdom, or any other typical heroic figure.

Yet, regardless of social status and career placement, these brothers take initiative to save this damsel in distress.

Our “status” in life is irrelevant. We are all capable of the most amazing accomplishments. Whether it’s saving a princess or some other (more modern) life mission, our places in society have nothing to do with our heroic ventures.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a plumber, a dentist, an accountant, or a waitress – heroism is much deeper than whatever career label society has planted on your forehead.

2 – Money is instrumental, but never the goal. 

Throughout playing the game, money (or finding coins) helps you stay alive long enough to complete your mission. In picking up coins, you’re able to earn more lives and sometimes buy enhancements to help you better defeat the enemy.

Though it’s helpful, money is never the mission itself. The point of the game is to save the princess. If you find yourself sidetracked, only searching for coins, you’ll never advance enough to actually make the final rescue. You’ll only be wondering around, never doing what you were designed to do.

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This relates to our real, human lives perfectly. Our mission in life should never be to “make money.” Yes, money helps take care of family, buy fun things, and pay the bills. But financial gain should only ever be seen as an instrument or tool in advancing our missions in life.

If money is the goal, happiness will never come.


So that’s two important life lessons that can be taken from this fun, adventurous little video game.

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Again, if you’ve never played Super Mario Bros., you’re really missing out. 😀

Thank you for reading this post and I hope you have an amazing day.

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Never stop chasing your princess!

Carly Twelve

Invaluable Life Advice from Jane Eyre (Part Five)

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This is the fifth and final post providing a collection of quotes from Jane Eyre. My hope is to read between the lines and spread the wisdom in these pages crafted by Charolette Brontë in 1847.

Here are the other four parts in case you missed them:

Part One
Part Two
Part Three
Part Four

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1 – Never let pride stand in the way of doing what’s right. 

“I was not heroic enough to purchase liberty at the price of caste.” Narrator (Chapter 3)

Doing the right thing is often difficult because it can come with backlash and judgement from those around us. However, it’s important to remember that facing moments of backlash is nothing compared to the regret that comes with neglecting to do the right thing.

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2 – You are strong enough to handle what the world has dealt you. 

“Yet it would be your duty to bear it, if you could not avoid it. It is weak and silly to say you cannot bear what it is your fate to be required to bear.” Helen Burns (Chapter 6)

“Why was I always suffering, always brow-beaten, always accused, forever condemned? Why could I never please? Why was it useless to try to win anyone’s favor?” Narrator (Chapter 2)

When going through hard times, it can often feel as if the universe is out to get us. Always remember that you are strong enough to face whatever is thrown your way.

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3 – Do not let day to day, petty issues infect your mood.  

“I can so clearly distinguish between the criminal and his crime; I can so sincerely forgive the first while I abhor the last; with this creed, revenge never worries my heart, degradation never too deeply disgusts me, injustice never crushes me too low. I live in calm, looking to the end.” Helen Burns (Chapter 6)

Looking at the big picture in life helps to reduce the significance of the daily stressors that can seem life altering in the moment. Always remember the most important things in life and don’t let anything less get you down.

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4 – Do not let fear get in the way of your goals and dreams. 

“The fear of failure in these points harassed me worse than the physical hardships of my lot; those these were no trifles.” Narrator (Chapter 7)

“It is a very strange sensation to inexperienced youth to feel itself quite alone in the world; cut adrift from every connection, uncertain whether the port to which it is bound can be reached, and prevented by many impediments from returning to that it has quitted. The charm of adventure sweetens that sensation, the glow of pride warms it; but then the throb of fear disturbs it;” Narrator (Chapter 11)

Fear is often the biggest obstacle in the path of reaching our dreams. “What if I fail?” “Will my friends laugh at me?” “Will I be taken seriously?” “Am I good enough?”

Fear is understandable and everyone faces it at some point in life. Yet that feeling of being afraid to fail does not mean you shouldn’t pursue your goals. On the other hand, it probably means you need to go for it. Don’t let fear hold you back, just as Jane continues on her journey is this novel even though she is scared to venture out.

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5 – Don’t try to be like everyone else – humans are flawed.

“Such is the imperfect nature of man – such spots are there on the disk of the clearest planet; and eyes like Miss Scatcherd’s can only see those minute defects, and are blind to the full brightness of the orb.” Narrator (Chapter 7)

“Most things free-born will submit to anything for a salary;” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 14)

The goals others have, the items they crave, and the lifestyle they dream of are all irrelevant. What matters is what you want, what your goals are, and how you strive to reach those goals. Advice from others is great, but you should always remember that everyone else has a different dream in mind. One person’s path to success with look absolutely different than another.

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6 – The heart’s feelings are not easily changed.

“I could not unlove him now, merely because I found that he had ceased to notice me – because I might pass hours in his presence, and he would never once turn his eyes in my direction – because I saw all his attentions appropriated by a great lady, who scorned to touch me with the hem of her robes as she passed – who, if ever her dark and imperious eye fell on me by chance, would withdraw it instantly…” Narrator (Chapter 18)

“There was nothing to cool or banish love in these circumstances, though much to create despair.” Narrator (Chapter 18)

“Blasphemy against nature! Every good, true, vigorous feeling I have, gathers impulsively round him. I know I must conceal my sentiments; I must smother hope; I must remember that he cannot care much for me.” Narrator (Chapter 17)

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When heartbroken or craving someone intensely, feeling angry at yourself is never a good response. The heart is going to want people and things that are not good for you, not right for you, or completely out of your reach. Don’t let yourself be mad at your heart for wanting things it shouldn’t. It’s natural to feel this way, so talk about it, write about it, discuss it with a friend, and grow from it.

Anger will never force your heart to change its desires.

7 – Words are much more painful than “sticks and stones.”

“Better tire my limbs than strain my heart…” Jane to herself (Chapter 25)

“And with that answer, he left me. I would much rather he had knocked me down.” Narrator (Chapter 34)

“My rest might have been blissful enough, only a sadheart broke it.” Narrator (Chapter 28)

“I so dreaded a reply that would crush me with despair. To prolong doubt was to prolong hope.” Narrator (Chapter 36)

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Words can cut deep and wound the soul. We all have scars on our hearts from the harsh words others have spoken. Always be careful what you say to others because a physical wound will heal, but a wound to the mind can last a lifetime.

8 – The mind holds the most beauty.

“Your mind is treasure, and if it were broken it would be my treasure still…” Mr. Rochester to Jane (Chapter 27)

“My very soul demands you…” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 37)

“…all the sunshine I can feel is in her presence.” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 37)

“I have worn it since the day I lost my only treasure…” Mr. Rochester on his bronze scrag (Chapter 37)

“…this obvious absence of passion in his sentiments toward her, that my ever-torturing pain arose.” Narrator (Chapter 18)

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Society is quick to value beauty as a result of the way people look. But the true beauty is found in the soul or the mind; the way a person treats others, the intelligence he/she holds, the quirks that are apparent, the music that she listens to when she’s sad – all of this is what leads to real beauty.

Instead of trying to look more appealing on the outside, we should strive to better our minds because that’s where the true value lies.

9 – Learn from those you admire.  

“…she was qualified to give those who enjoyed the privilege of her converse a taste of far higher things.” Narrator (Chapter 9)

“…she was smart in all she did, and had a remarkable knack of narrative…” Narrator (Chapter 4)

“What a smile! I remember it now, and I know that it was the effluence of fine intellect, of true courage…” Narrator on Helen Burns (Chapter 7)

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When that feeling of deep admiration hits, it must have some reasoning behind it. Why do you admire certain people and not others? Take the time to evaluate the feelings and learn from those you hold in high regards. Though these people are only human, they may possess qualities you wish to gain yourself. We typically learn best from others.

10 – Never lose hope. 

“…I believed in the existence of other and more vivid kinds of goodness, and what I believed in I wished to behold.” Narrator (Chapter 12)

The world can be a terrible place sometimes, but we can’t let the darkness overtake our hopes of finding happiness. No matter what happens, don’t lose your faith in the world and its people. Goodness does exist if only we can learn to look past the dark.

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Thank you for reading this post. I appreciate it and would love to hear comments about what others see in this amazing novel.

Carly Twelve

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Invaluable Life Advice from Jane Eyre (Part Four)

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Welcome to Part Four of this five part list of advice from Jane Eyre, written by Charlotte Brontë. Whether you’ve read the book or not, enjoyed it’s story or despised it, I hope to highlight the areas where valuable life lessons can be learned. Check out Part One, Part Two, and Part Three if you missed them.

1 – Never make big decisions in times of high emotion.

“…you must really make an effort to tranquillize your feelings.” St. John (Chapter 33)

“I will hold to the principles received by me when I was sane, and not mad – as I am now.” Jane to herself (Chapter 27)

Take a breather and distract yourself, always, before committing to an action in a moment of extreme emotional highs and lows. Be careful not to make tough promises when you’re happy, send lengthy gut-spilling messages when you’re sad, or quit your job in a massive angry outburst.

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We later regret the decisions made and words spoken in those moments, so it’s best to step away, calm down, and decide how to act when our minds have settled down.

2 – Decipher between what’s desired and what’s necessary.

“That I should like to have it is certain; whether it would be judicious or wise is another question.” St. John (Chapter 32)

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Whether it’s a new car or a new boyfriend, it’s important to consider the necessity  and morale of whatever is desired. Is it right or wrong, will it still be wanted a month later? Think about it before jumping in.

3 – Connection is key.

“And you,” I interrupted, “cannot at all imagine the craving I have for fraternal and sisterly love. I never had a home, I never had brothers and sisters; I must and will have them now.” Jane (Chapter 33)

“…there is no happiness like that of being loved by our fellow-creatures, and feeling that your presence is an addition to their comfort.” Narrator (Chapter 22)Image result for family

At the end of the day, we are human and need love and connection from others. That’s what most of us desire in life whether we admit it or not, and connection is what gives life true meaning.

4 – Do not idolize humans. 

“I could not, in those days, see God for his creature, of whom I had made an idol.” Jane on Mr. Rochester (Chapter 24)

Especially when infatuated with a new interest, it’s easy to place him/her on an impossible pedestal. We also do this with celebrities, parents, teachers, and other people in places of high admiration. It’s great to have role models but important to remember that these people are only human too. They will make mistakes and let us down, and that’s normal. To avoid heartbreak, know they’re human, not gods without imperfections.

Admire those who deserve it, but don’t hold them to inhuman standards.

5 – Forgiving enemies from the past will bring you peace. 

“It is a happy thing that time quells the longings of vengeance, and hushes the promptings of rage and aversion; I had left this woman in bitterness and hate, and I came back to her now with no other emotion than a sort of ruth for her great sufferings, and a strong yearning to forget and forgive all injuries…” Narrator on Mrs. Reed (Chapter 21)

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It’s an amazing experience to feel nothing at the sight of an old face that used to bring pain. Forgive, move on, and over time you will also forget. Peace will come as days go by and new friends come and go. Allow yourself to forgive and heal, and you’ll gain true serenity of mind.

6 – Help others. 

“…no service degrades which can better our race.” St. John (Chapter 30)

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Give a little change to a person on a street corner with a cardboard sign, pick up some trash in the ditch, clean up a mess so another doesn’t have to…the list is endless of tasks we can complete to help others. It should never be seen as degrading and we shouldn’t feel we are “above” doing something because we’re all human, here on this earth, surviving together.

7 – An experience is only as good as your attitude/mood in the moment. 

“I flew through Europe half mad, with disgust, hate, and rage as my companions; now I shall revisit it healed and cleansed…” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 24)

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Vacations, movies, theme parks, weddings, family functions, and any other events are only enjoyed when you have a clear mind. If you go on vacation immediately following a huge fight with your significant other, you likely won’t enjoy that vacation at all.

The good thing about attitude is that we have one hundred percent over our own. So no matter what happened leading up to today, you have the power to tell yourself to suck it up and have a great day.

8 – Forgive yourself, whether others forgive you or not. 

“…let him look higher than his equals for strength to amend, and solace to heal.” Jane Eyre (Chapter 20)

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Asking for forgiveness can be hard, especially if the other person refuses to accept the apology. However, nothing is as hard as forgiving ourselves.

Say it out loud, and say it everyday, “I forgive myself.” Over time, you’ll be able to lighten the burden on your heart.

9 – Keep yourself guarded.

“…I should keep him ignorant that harm to me is possible.” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 20)

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Be vulnerable when you need to vent, but keep those against you ignorant of weakness. Those people don’t deserve to see inside your soul to the beautiful person within.

10 – Never let the difficult times darken your spirit. 

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Keep a fighter’s motivation and push back when times grow arduous. Don’t let the darkness of others and the world around you infect your spirit. Stand strong and know that dark times are bound to change, and push away those people who only bring you down.Image result for book

Thanks for reading this post, and stay tuned for Part Five.

Carly Twelve ^_^

 

Invaluable Life Advice from Jane Eyre (Part Three)

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There’s too much wisdom in this novel to condense it down to one or two single documents, so here is Part Three of the priceless life advice contracted from Charolette Brontë’s Jane Eyre.

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If you missed them, check out Part One and Part Two.

1 – Never let your pride make your decisions for you. 

“Her feelings are concentrated in one – pride; and that needs humbling.” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 24)

“I have not much pride under such circumstances; I would always rather be happy than dignified, and I ran after him…” Narrator on St. John (Chapter 34)

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Pride can be a dangerous trait when it comes to happiness, contentment, and closure. It’s important to know when to swallow the stubbornness of pride and move forward with life.

2 – Trust your gut. 

“…cease to mistrust yourself…” St. John (Chapter 34)

“To have yielded then would have been an error of principle; to have yielded now would have been an error of judgement.” Narrator (Chapter 35)

“…he surrounded me with his arm, almost as if he loved me. I say almost – I knew the difference – for I had felt what it was to be loved…” Narrator (Chapter 35)

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Those gut feelings in moments of pressure are often protective. Sometimes it’s best to trust those feelings instead of overthinking the situation.

3 – Even those we have high respect for are only human.  

“…I felt his imperfection, and took courage. I was with an equal, one with whom I might argue…” Narrator (Chapter 34)

“When I remembered how far I had once been admitted to his confidence, I could hardly comprehend his present frigidity.” Jane on St. John (Chapter 34)

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It’s normal to be nervous or to act differently around those of socially higher status – a professor, boss, doctor, etc. Yet at the end of the day, those people are only human, too. They may deserve and receive our respect, but they should still be treated as fellow humans.

4 – Know your own worth and value. Stand firm in your feelings. 

“A woman who could betray me for such a rival was not worth contending for; she deserved only scorn; less however, than I, who had been her dupe.” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 15)

“…so don’t make him the object of your fine feelings, your raptures, agonies, and so forth. He is not of your order; keep to your caste; and be too self respecting to lavish the love of the whole heart, soul, and strength, where such a gift is not wanted and would be despised.” Narrator (Chapter 17)

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“But I was not jealous, or very rarely – the nature of the pain I suffered could not be explained by that word. Miss Ingram was a mark beneath jealousy; she was too inferior to excite the feeling.” Narrator (Chapter 18)

“…I can live alone, if self-respect and circumstances require me so to do. I need not sell my soul to buy bliss. I have an inward treasure, born with me, which can keep me alive if all extraneous delights should be withheld, or offered only at a price I cannot afford to give.” The gypsy (Mr. Rochester) quoting Jane’s personality (Chapter 19)

“A sneer, however, whether covert or open, had now no longer that power over me it once possessed…” Narrator (Chapter 21)

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“The fact was, I had other things to think about…pains and pleasures so much more acute and exquisite had been exited than any it was in their power to inflict or bestow – that their airs gave me no concern either for good or bad.” Narrator (Chapter 21)

“I’ll promise you anything, sir, that I think I am likely to perform.” Jane Eyre (Chapter 21)

“Jewels for Jane Eyre sounds unnatural and strange; I would rather not have them.” Jane (Chapter 24)

“…and I don’t call you handsome, sir, though I love you most dearly – far too dearly to flatter you. Don’t flatter me.” Jane (Chapter 24)

“…don’t send for the jewels, and don’t crown me with roses; You might as well put a border of gold lace round that plain pocket-handkerchief you have there.” Jane (Chapter 24)

“…I like rudeness a great deal better than flattery. I had rather be a thing than an angel.” Jane (Chapter 24)

“Seek one elsewhere than in me, St. John…” Jane (Chapter 34)

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“…if I bid you do what you thought wrong, there would no light-footed running, no neat-handed alacrity, no lively glance and animated complection. My friend would then turn to me quiet and pale, and would say, ‘No, sir; that is impossible; I cannot do it, because it is wrong,’ and would become immutable as a fixed star. Well, you, too, have power over me, and may injure me…” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 20)

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If any situation or person leads you to question your beliefs and who you are, do not take it lightly. Stand strong in the way that you feel about things and don’t let others question your integrity. Some people deserve our love, and some do not. Some people will help us learn, and others will help us learn who not to be.

Self respect goes a long way in keeping you happy. Don’t let others make you question who you are or the value you know you possess.

5 – Move on when necessary.

“…what necessity is there to dwell on the Past, when the Present is so much surer – the Future so much brighter?” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 27)

“…I must seek another interest in life to replace the one lost…” Jane to herself (Chapter 34)

“…I see the necessity of departure; and it is like looking on the necessity of death.” Jane Eyre (Chapter 23)

“It cannot be too early to commence the task I have to fulfil.” Jane to herself about leaving (Chapter 27)

“He would send for me in the morning; I should be gone.” Jane/Narrator (Chapter 27)

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Moving on and letting go are possibly the most difficult actions throughout our lives. Yet sometimes, it’s the best option for ourselves in order to regain sanity and happiness. Though it may ache and burn the heart, over time it becomes obvious that moving on is the best decision.

6 – Say what’s on your mind and release those feelings from burdening your heart.  

“Reserved people often really need the frank discussion of their sentiments and griefs more than the expansive.” Narrator (Chapter 32)

“…it is fully as much a matter of feeling as of conscience. I must indulge my feelings, I so seldom have had an opportunity of doing so.” Jane (Chapter 33)

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Bottling things up will make a person absolutely insane until finally the thoughts explode in destructive ways. It’s far better to let out the feelings as they trouble you. Holding things in will stress you out, so speak up and release the tension.

7 – Music and Books can solve many problems. 

“…the world book acted as a transient stimulus…” Narrator (Chapter 3)

“I soon forgot storm in music.” Narrator (Chapter 33)

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There aren’t too many stressors that can’t be drowned out by amazing songs and awesome reads. Whether you are in a sad, angry, frustrated, or bored mood, there’s typically a song or novel close by that can ease the mind.

8 – Other people, for whatever reasons, just think differently than you. 

“…for acting in conformity to ideas and principles instilled into them, doubtless, from their childhood…they had reasons for holding them such as I could not fathom.” Narrator on Miss Ingram marrying Mr. Rochester for pride and money (Chapter 18)

“…convinced me that there must be arguments against its general adoption of which I was quite ignorant, otherwise I felt sure all the world would act as I wished to act.” Narrator (Chapter 18)Image result for different

Sometimes it depends on how you’re raised, other times it’s a result of stressful events, and often it’s a result of society’s influence – the point is, right or wrong, we all have our own opinions on the world and how it should be. You can argue for years with someone with differing views, but it’s often a complete waste of time.

Respect and understand that others will always have different ways of thinking. We will never agree on everything. Take it for what it is, respect your own beliefs, and you will be at peace.

9 – Enjoy natural beauties of the world. 

“Turn back; on so lovely a night it is a shame to sit in the house; and surely no one can wish to go to bed while sunset is thus at meeting with moonrise.” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 23)

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Those cloudless moonlit nights are a simple beauty of nature meant to be enjoyed by us all. We so frequently ignore and disregard the simple wonder that the skies and earth provide us with. Take the time to admire the exquisite earth we take for granted.

10 – Sometimes it’s best to keep things to yourself.

“It is far better to endure patiently a smart which nobody feels but yourself, than to commit a hasty action whose evil consequences will extend to all connected with you.” Helen Burns (Chapter 6)

“Silence composes the nerves.” Narrator (Chapter 15)

“You are no talking fool; say nothing about it.” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 15)

It is my way – it was always my way by instinct – ever to meet the brief with brevity, the direct with plainness.” Narrator (Chapter 29)Image result for shh

It’s good to let things out if they’re eating at you, but always be wise in letting the world see your every thought and plan. We live in a world today that is quick to scream and shout opinions. It can feel pretty good to be that one person in the background, observing and keeping the thoughts inside.

Living in a loud world, many times it’s best to enjoy silent moments. The loudness of society will never listen to wisdom anyway, so share your thoughts with those who will listen, instead of the boisterous voices that only seek attention.

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That’s ten more pieces of valuable advice I’ve heard in the pages of Jane Eyre. I hope you enjoyed this post and thank you ever so much for reading it.

Carly Twelve ^_^

 

 

 

Invaluable Life Advice from “Jane Eyre” (Part Two)

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Charolette Brontë’s Jane Eyre is a masterpiece full of amazing life lessons. Here is the second collection of quotes from this novel that provide invaluable advice for anyone willing to read the lines and listen.

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If you missed Part One, check it out.

1 – Life is too short to stress.

“Why, then, should we ever sink overwhelmed with distress, when life is so soon over, and death is so certain an entrance to happiness – to glory?” Helen Burns (Chapter 8)

This quote is coming from a child often scorned for little reason and soon to die from a terminal illness. She knows her life is especially short and sees each day as a special gift no matter what unfortunate things happen. For those of us with many years left, we really need to learn to appreciate each day as a chance to live. Gratefulness goes a long way in de-stressing the modern life.

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2 – Beauty is much deeper than outward appearance. 

“..a beauty neither of fine color, nor long eyelash, nor pencilled brow, but of meaning, of movement, of radiance. Then her soul sat on her lips, and language flowed, from what source I cannot tell.” Narrator (Chapter 8)

“…he seems to have more length of limb than vivacity of blood or vigor of brain.” Narrator (Chapter 17)

“But my curiosity will be past its appetite; it craves food now.” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 17)

“She was very showy, but she was not genuine. She had a fine person, many brilliant attainments; but her mind was poor, her heart barren by nature…” Narrator (Chapter 18)

“She was not good, she was not original…She advocated a high tone of sentiment; but she did not know the sensations of sympathy and pity.” Narrator (Chapter 18)

It might sound all too cliché to say that attractiveness should be based on a person’s personality rather than his or her level of beauty. In reading Jane Eyre, we see that this issue of personality over appearance is a timeless debate.

In the novel and in real life, most happy couples’ relationships go much deeper than having pretty faces. Just because a person is gorgeous with a perfect body does not mean that he or she is a good person deserving of your eternal love. We must learn to look deeper into people’s souls when choosing friends and significant others.

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3 – Make the most out of life.

“…her spirit seemed hastening to live within a very brief span as much as many live during a protracted existence.” Narrator (Chapter 8)

This quote, again, is regarding a child living an extremely arduous life. Yet, Miss Helen Burns smiles through her pain and still manages to enjoy what little joys life has given her. If a child like this can learn to make the most of what she’s been given, than so can we.

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4 – Do more of what makes you happy. 

“I feasted, instead, on the spectacle of ideal drawings which I saw in the dark; all the work of my own hands. “ Narrator (Chapter 8)

We should all strive to do more of the things that make us forget to eat. Those are the activities that will bring us true happiness and lead us to enjoy our mundane lives more and more each day. Search to find a passion and never stop pursuing what you love.

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5 – Who you are with is more important than what you have.

“Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith.” Narrator quoting Solomon (Chapter 8)

The people we are with whether it’s at home, on vacation, at work, or suffering on the side of the street can make or break the entire experience we’re living. We have all probably been on miserable vacations where we reside in a beautiful place yet spend the entire time on edge because we are with negative people who make us grumpy or anxious.

On the other hand, we have all likely experienced a nice time at work occasionally with coworkers or clients who make us laugh though we are in the midst of mundane labor.

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Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, the experience is typically only as good as the people along for the ride with you.

6 – There is much to see in this world and yearning to experience all things in life is normal.

“I remembered that the real world was wide, and that a varied field of hopes and fears, of sensations and excitements, awaited those who had courage to go forth into its expanse to seek real knowledge of life amid its perils.” Narrator (Chapter 10)

“…the restlessness was in my nature; it agitated me to pain sometimes.” Narrator (Chapter 12)

“It is vain to say human beings ought to be satisfied with tranquillity; they must have action; and they will make it if they cannot find it.” Narrator (Chapter 12)

“It is thoughtless to condemn them, or laugh at them; if they seek to do more or learn more than custom has pronounced necessary for their sex.” Narrator on Women (Chapter 12)

“To pass its threshold was to return to stagnation…” Narrator on Thornfield (Chapter 12)

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Nowadays we can look at pictures of far away places on the internet, but there’s still nothing better than going to those places and experiencing them for ourselves. It’s perfectly normal to want some adventure and when the itch to travel comes, nothing will ease the ache other than buying a ticket and heading out for a new adventure.

7 – Like it or not, some people just are the way they are and there’s nothing that can be done about it. 

“Partly because it is his nature – and we can none of us help our nature; and partly, he has painful thoughts, no doubt, to harass him, and make his spirits unequal.” Mrs. Fairfax (Chapter 13)

“But unimpressionable natures are not so soon softened, nor are natural antipathies so readily eradicated…” Narrator (Chapter 21)

Sometimes it’s hard to deal with people that are difficult or that seem to always disagree. The best thing to do is understand that he or she is the way he or she is. Accept this fact, don’t try to argue with him/her, and move on. You will be at peace.

8 – Never blame yourself for the actions of others.

“His changes of mood did not offend me, because I saw that I had nothing to do with their alteration; the ebb and flow depended on causes quite disconnected with me.” Narrator (Chapter 14)

If someone is rude to you without cause or reason, never blame yourself. We have the power to control our own actions, but never the power to affect the way others around us act. It’s hard to let go of trying to cheer someone up or to make a person like us when they are seemingly bothered by our presence, yet we can’t let these actions of others bring us down or lead to distress.

9 – Do not trouble yourself with things out of your control.

“…but where is the use of thinking of it, hampered, burdened, cursed as I am?” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 14)

The world is not always great, and terrible things often occur across all walks of life. A good way to keep the floods out of our own personal minds is to accept that many things are far beyond our control. If something can be done about a rough situation, that’s great. Go out and take of it. But if not, if there’s absolutely nothing you can do to improve the situation, move on. Try to make the most of what you can change and don’t worry about the rest.

10 – Expectations only bring disappointment. 

“…expectation has been so long baffled that it is grown impatient.” Jane on wanting to see Mr. Rochester badly.(Chapter 16)

“I was actually permitting myself to experience a sickening sense of disappointment…” Narrator (Chapter 17)

“I began to cherish hopes I had no right to conceive…” Narrator (Chapter 22)

“I feared – or should I say hoped? – the allusion to me would make Mr. Rochester glance my way; and I involuntarily shrunk further into the shade; but he never turned his eyes.” Narrator (Chapter 17)

Live life everyday with a fresh mind. Never play scenes in your head of how you’d like things to go or fantasize of how life will be if you ever win the lottery when most of us are never even going to play the lottery. All this does is create high expectations of life that are unrealistic and damaging. This destroys our ability to be grateful for what life has given us.

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If you haven’t read Jane Eyre yet, I strongly encourage you to do so. These quotes above and those in Part One are the lines that stuck out to me the most. The best way to learn is to pick up the novel yourself and fill your brain with its wisdom.

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Thank you for reading this post. ^_^

Carly Twelve

Invaluable Life Advice From “Jane Eyre” (Part One)

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In 1847, Charolette Brontë graced us with the now classic novel, Jane Eyre. Through reading this compelling story, numerous lines and paragraphs stand out for different reasons.  Whether it’s about love, loneliness, or a lost kid forced to live with an evil aunt, the words in Jane Eyre are a true gift to the world.

Advice, whether sought out or not, is always valuable. Hundreds of self-help books exist in book stores and online today, but reading this novel from the nineteenth century can provide just as much wisdom.

Here are ten life lessons/ pieces of advice from Jane Eyre: 

1 – If you don’t have anything nice to say…don’t say anything at all. And always, think before you speak.

“Be seated somewhere; and until you can speak pleasantly, remain silent.” Mrs. Reed (Chapter 1)

“…one should consider all before pronouncing an opinion as to its nature.” Jane Eyre (Chapter 13)

“Then no more need be said; change the subject.” Blanche (Chapter 17)

We live in a very loud society where most people are quick to shout their views to the world. It can help to take a step back and listen to these old words of wisdom, especially before spewing out any negativity around others.

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2 – Always respect your host and the home you’re living in.

“…you should try to be useful and pleasant, then perhaps you would have a home here; but if you become passionate and rude, missus will send you away, I am sure.” Bessie (Chapter 2)

Obviously little Jane Eyre wasn’t treated well in the home she lived in, and she didn’t deserve the harsh sessions of scorn from her aunt. But the point here is to hold respect for those taking care of you. Though those people may not be perfect and will give you a hard time every now and then, it’s important to acknowledge and uphold the rules put in place whether it’s living with your parents or dealing with a difficult boss. We should speak up for ourselves, yes, though with regards to those who are providing for us.

3 – Hardships will make sense later in life.

“Yet in what darkness, what dense ignorance, was the mental battle fought! I could not answer the ceaseless inward question – why I thus suffered; now, at the distance of – I will not say how many years, I see it clearly.” Narrator (Chapter 2)

We all go through dark periods in life and in different stages – childhood, adolescence, young adulthood, and so on. In the moments of pain it is difficult, if not impossible, to see what good could ever come from our suffering. Often later in life, when looking back on our worst days, we can take an objective perspective and see the lessons learned and skills earned during those rough times.

4 – People should not be judged by their income and/or residential status.

“Poverty looks grim to grown people; still more so to children: they have not much idea of industrious, working, respectable poverty; they think of the world only as connected with ragged clothes, scanty food, fireless grates, rude manners, and debasing vices; poverty for me was synonymous with degradation.” Narrator (Chapter 3)

“Prejudices, it is well known, are most difficult to eradicate from the heart whose soil has never been loosened or fertilized by education…” Narrator (Chapter 27)

“…these coarsely-clad little peasants are of flesh and blood as good as the scions of gentlest genealogy, and that the germs of native excellence, refinement, intelligence, kind felling, are as likely to exist in their hearts as in those of the best-born.” Narrator (Chapter 31)

Just because a person is homeless or earns a low income does not mean he/she is lazy, unintelligent, or a drug addict. We are all equal in the big picture of the universe whether you are a millionaire or living in a tent. It’s unfair and foolish to judge people by how they choose to live their lives if we’ve never even held a conversation with them.

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5 – Happy moments do exist in the darkest of lives.

“Even for me life had its gleams of sunshine.” Narrator (Chapter 4)

Life has its bleak and bland days mixed along with the sorrow and painful hours. Sometimes it can seem as if the world is falling downhill and your life is plummeting down to the depths. No matter how bad things get, look for something – anything – that can bring even a small moment of joy to the dark days.

6 – Leave the past behind.

“Gateshead and my past life seemed floated away to an immeasurable distance; the present was vague and strange, and of the future I could form no conjecture.” Narrator (Chapter 5)

Everyday is a new day and provides more chances to move forward with life. The past can weigh us down, especially the more that we dwell on it. It helps to focus on the present and hope for the best future for ourselves.

7 – Being alone isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

“…without a companion, yet not feeling lonely…” Narrator (Chapter 6)

“…but my heart and mind would be free, I should still have my unblighted self to turn to; my natural unenslaved feelings with which to communicate in moments of loneliness.” Narrator (Chapter 34)

“As yet, I had spoken to no one, nor did anybody seem to take notice of me. I stood lonely enough; but to that feeling of isolation I was accustomed; it did not oppress me much.” Narrator (Chapter 5)

Being alone often has negative connotations attached to it. A lot of people are terrified of this state. Yet, it doesn’t have to be a bad thing and spending time alone can really be an enlightening experience.

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8 – Holding onto grudges will only trouble the mind.

“No ill usage so brands its record on my feelings. Would you not be happier if you tried to forget her severity, together with the passionate emotions it excited? Life appears to me too short to be spend in nursing animosity or registering wrongs.” Helen Burns (Chapter 6)

Holding onto a grudge often is hard to let go of because we feel it will let the person who has done wrong to us off the hook – like we’d be giving that person a “get out of jail free” card. However, letting go of grudges doesn’t free that wrong person, it frees you. It does absolutely no good to sulk in anger or frustration at a person’s actions outside of your control. Let go and forgive those who have wronged you, and be free to move on with your life.

9 – Your opinion of yourself is the most important.

“If all the world hated you and believed you wicked, while your own conscience approved you, and absolved you from guilt, you would not be without friends.” Helen Burns (Chapter 7)

“…a wanderer’s repose or a sinner’s reformation should never depend on a fellow-creature.” Jane Eyre (Chapter 20)

“I still felt as a wanderer on the face of the earth: but I experienced firmer trust in myself and my own powers, and less withering dread of oppression. The gaping wound of my wrongs, too, was now quite healed, and the flame of resentment extinguished.” Narrator (Chapter 21)

I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained, I am, the more I will respect myself.” Jane to herself (Chapter 27)

No matter who you are, what you do, or where you are headed, there will always be someone out there who is not fond of you and your lifestyle. At the end of the day, that those critical people don’t really matter. The only person that can give you value and worth is you. Only you.

10 – Everyone deserves a second chance.

“We shall think you what you prove yourself to be, my child.” Miss Temple (Chapter 8)

Wherever someone came from, whatever rumors may exist, a person should be allowed a fresh start when moving to a new location and group of people. It’s not fair to judge based on past transgressions, former acquaintances, or trivial history. The best way to give someone a fair chance is to personally get to know him/her as he/she is now, yourself, with a clean slate for both parties.

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Jane Eyre by Charolette Brontë is a must read for everyone. Not only does it give us an amazing story of hardship, perseverance, and triumph, it also provides amazing life lessons.

Thank you for reading this post. ^_^

Carly Twelve

How to Handle Difficult People

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Everyone has had experiences with difficult people – inconsiderate, ignorant, impatient, and impolite humans. We’ve all been guilty of rude behavior from time to time, but some people just seem to consistently radiate negative vibes and flash a scowl every time they’re out and about.

(On a side note, I’d like to refer to this as difficult behavior instead of difficult humans. I think all people should be given the benefit of the doubt if their story isn’t completely understood.)

It’s hard to keep yourself calm and content when dealing with these kinds of people – especially if you are facing them at your place of work where you probably have to remain cool and collected.

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Sometimes it can feel like no matter what’s going on in the universe, no matter how well you try to please this person, and no matter how ridiculous he/she’s being – this annoying behavior will never cease.

Though we can’t control the behavior of others, we can practice a few techniques in these situations to help ourselves remain level headed. We don’t have to allow the negativity seep into our personal thoughts.

1 – Never take the difficult behaviors personally. 

This is a difficult thing to do when a person is in your face, acting insane and shouting insults. Or even if the person is just making sly, subtle impolite comments. Either way, always do the best you can to never take any of this personally.

Always remember that these angry, aggressive people are likely going through something in their lives, totally unrelated to you and your actions. And of course, insecurity plays a huge role in deciding how these types of people act.

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Don’t let the insecurities and personal problems of others make you question your own value and worth as a human. No one deserves to face condescending words from others. Always keep that in mind when someone is taking his/her frustrations out on you.

It’s not easy to deal with, but it’s probably not personal either.

2 – Remind yourself of the good people in your life. 

Day in and day out, if we must face men and women who are full of anger and frustrations, it’s easy to take on a perspective that all humans suck and behave in this ridiculous way.

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Not all people are terrible. Good, honest souls do exist in the world. It’s likely that we’ve all met awesome human beings who help keep our faith in the goodness of the human race. Make a list of the good people in your life and cherish them in these moments of dealing with ignorant behavior.

Call or text a friend if needed, just to remind yourself that not everyone is an a**h**e prone to bringing your spirits down.

3 – Stay quiet, and don’t argue. 

When someone is having an outburst of negativity, there’s likely no use in trying to calm him/her down. The hormones are accelerating and thoughts are racing in these people. The best thing anyone can do in a situation like this, is just to sit back, listen, and remain silent.

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Arguing will only fuel the difficult person’s fury while simultaneously raising your own innate defense systems. Stay quiet and let the person expend all their words into thin air.

Do not involve yourself in the ignorance. It won’t make the person go away and it will only bring harm to yourself.

4 – Never repeat these difficult behaviors. Spread the goodness, be forgiving. 

Next time you start to feel the pulse rising and the veins heating up, take some deep breaths.

Think before you act. Is the person you’re about to explode on even the one at fault? Are you really angry at yourself? Will having an outburst make you feel any better or help you solve any problems?

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We all face impatience, we are all quick to judge from time to time, and we’ve all let our emotions make decisions for us. No one is perfect, but we each have the choice to be kind and considerate each day. We all have power over our actions and can choose to walk away before a situation gets heated.


Not every imperfect scenario has to turn into a war. Learn to practice these four techniques to deal with difficult human behavior, and learn to avoid partaking in these negative acts yourself.

It will keep your days from being ruined by insignificant little annoyances.

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Thank you for reading this post.

Have a great day, and don’t let others bring you down.

Carly Twelve