Confidence is easy at times and difficult to find in other moments. Stressful situations, rejection, embarrassment, apprehension, being alone – lots of things can drain any and all confidence we work so hard to muster. Regardless of the scenario, there are 12 major reasons you can be confident no matter what:
1 – They are all sheep.
It sounds silly, but seriously – everyone else you are facing – they’re all just sheep. Cute, harmless, little fluffy sheep. Don’t let any of these creatures intimidate you because…
2 – You are a wolf.
And wolves don’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep, right? You are awesome, tough, unique, and just as capable as anyone else out there in the world. Did someone fail to notice this awesomeness in you? That’s because he/she is a sheep. And you’re a wolf.
3 – Life is short.
Whatever happens – even if it’s the worst possible outcome – life is too short to worry about it. Say to yourself, “Wow, that sucks,” and move on. Because worrying about it won’t add any time to your limited lifespan. Don’t waste much time thinking about the “could have,” “should have,” or “would have,” possibilities. It will only ruin your present situation.
4 – Others are likely going to judge you anyway, regardless of how perfectly you perform.
It’s unfortunate, but some people are just negative. Don’t let the negativity of others infect your attitude. Just do what works for you, because trying to please others will only end in rejection anyways. It’s better to fail at something you care about than to have to face rejection for something unimportant.
5 – You’re wiser than they are.
Others will be placed in front of you to judge and score you, without even knowing much about you. No one will truly understand who you are and what you’re about from an hour long interview. So know that going into an uncomfortable situation, regardless of the outcome, it has nothing to do with who you are as a person. Awesomeness can’t always be seen at first.
6 – Even if they think the worst, you’ll be fine.
This ties in with #5. If others think the worst of you after the first encounter, that’s their issue. They didn’t have time to get to know the awesome human inside.
7 – Think of all the good things in your life.
When facing the unknown, think of all the amazing things going on in your life. That way, even if something goes wrong, you’ll have the good things to fall back on. Maybe your kids, your friends, your family, your pet, and your intramural league are all going great. Make a list and keep it with you for stressful times when your confidence starts to fade.
8 – We all have a past.
Having a rough past can drain confidence because no one wants to be judged for what she/he did when she was 18 years old. It helps to know that we all have things in our pasts that we aren’t proud of. It does no good to be ashamed of past mistakes.
9 – You have life experience.
This goes back to how no one you just met knows all the stuff you’ve had to fight in your past. They can judge all they want, but they have no clue the life experiences you’ve racked up.
10 – Other people are only people, too.
Everyone has insecurities, everyone has been rejected, and everyone has sucky things going on in their lives. Know that you are not alone in unfortunate events.
11 – Everyone has to start somewhere.
Each doctor was once an undergraduate student struggling to pass Biology, each professional was once a clueless intern, and every person at her job had to deal with the “day one” nerves. It’s okay to be new at things because if people avoided being a newbie, no one would ever become anything great.
12 – At life, nobody knows what the hell is going on.
We can all make plans and map out careers and what not, but in reality – nothing ever goes as planned and no one has all the answers. Never be ashamed or embarrassed that your life is a wreck – everyone’s life is a mess. And those who deny that are lying to themselves.
Confidence will falter, it will be low at times, but try to remember/do these 12 things and you’ll feel a boost.
Thank you for reading, have an amazing day. Stand tall, be confident.