Quotes from ‘A Game of Thrones’ // Catelyn’s Perspective

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Book One of A Song of Ice and Fire: A Game of Thrones by George R. R. Martin is an exciting adventure. Here are the best quotes from the chapters of Catelyn’s perspective:

(Disclaimer: I’m just a fan of the books and the author, no affiliation with the publishers, etc. I own none of these words, I only enjoy them.)

If you missed them, here are the quotes from Bran’s chapters.

  1. “He must learn to face his fears. He will not be three forever. And winter is coming.” [Ned]
  2. “There are darker things beyond the Wall.” [Catelyn]fullsizeoutput_d48
  3. “Take the children. Fill her halls with noise and shouts and laughter.” [Ned]
  4. “…the darkness left his eyes.” [Narrator]
  5. “Where the king goes, the realm follows.” [Catelyn]
  6. “There is grief in this message, Ned. I can feel it.” [Catelyn]
  7. “This is no time for false modesty.” [Catelyn]
  8. “His road is no crueler than yours…” [Maester Luwin]
  9. “Summer will end soon enough, and childhood as well.” [Ned]
  10. Never draw your sword unless you mean to use it.” [Ser Rodrik]GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA
  11. “The pain was her scourge..” [Narrator]
  12. “…it is one thing to be clever and another to be wise…” [Catelyn]
  13. “I am not accustomed to being summoned like a serving wench.” [Catelyn]
  14. “…Old sweet friends should never hesitate to rely upon each other.” [Littlefinger]
  15. “Varys was lord of nothing but the spiderweb, the master of none but his whisperers.” [Narrator]
  16. “She would not let them see her grief.” [Narrator]GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA
  17. “Those who come late to meals don’t eat.” [Masha]
  18. “…one elderly knight, armored in loyalty.” [Narrator]
  19. “Common travelers attract less notice.” [Catelyn]
  20. “The crossroads made for odd companions…” [Narrator]
  21. “As she had suspected, he was more interested in telling his own story than in hearing theirs. Singers loved nothing half so well as the sound of their own voices.” [Narrator]
  22. “…the Starks know no music but the howling of wolves.” [Marillion]
  23. “So long as the fire’s warm and the straw reasonably free of fleas, I am a happy man.” [Man of the Night’s Watch]
  24. “Courage he had, and strength, but there was no kindness in him, and little loyalty.” [Narrator, Catelyn, on Bronn]
  25. “A woman can rule as wisely as a man.” [Catelyn]
    “The right woman can.” [Ser Brynden]
  26. “…their marriage was made from politics, not passion.” [Ser Brynden]
  27. “The dwarf is here, and not by choice. Chains or not, he is my prisoner.” [Catelyn]
  28. “…the looming mass of the great mounted shrouded in night, as black as a starless sky.” [Narrator]
  29. “Torches just blind you. On a clear night like this, the moon and the stars are enough.” [Mya]
  30. “…the wind was a living thing, howling around them like a wolf in the waste.” [Narrator]
  31. “No castle is impregnable.” [Ser Brynden]
  32. “…and yet in life she had never shed a tear. So in death, the gods had decreed that she would know no rest until her weeping watered the black earth of the Vale, where the men she had loved were buried.” [Narrator on Alyssa Arryn]
  33. “…it seemed cruel for a day to dawn so fair and end so foul…” [Narrator]
  34. “Too fond of the sight of blood on that golden sword of his.” [Ser Rodrik on Jaime]
  35. “…she was weary of futile arguments with her sister.” [Narrator]
  36. “You named yourself battle commander. Command.” [Catelyn]
  37. “Your father is not fearless. He is brave, but that is very different.” [Catelyn, to Robb]
  38. “You want cold cunning, I should think, not courage.” [Catelyn]
  39. “She had put despair and fear aside, as if they were garments she did not choose to wear…but now she saw that she had donned them after all.” [Narrator]
  40. “She masked her fears behind a face kept still and stern.” [Narrator]
  41. “A child sees an obstacle, and his first thought is to run around it or knock it down. A lord must learn that sometimes words can accomplish what swords cannot.” [Catelyn]GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA
  42. “…but some truths did not bear saying, and some lies were necessary.” [Narrator]
  43. “She would need to choose her words with care, and do her best to take no offense from his.” [Narrator]
  44. “Father says you should let the men see you before a battle.” [Robb]
  45. “It was a terrible sound, a frightening sound, yet there was music in it too.” [Narrator, on Grey Wind’s howling]
  46. “Grieve for them. Honor them for their valor. But not now. You have no time for grief.” [Catelyn]
  47. “We have won a battle, not a war.” [Catelyn]GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA
  48. “She wondered if indeed her heart would ever lift again…” [Narrator]
  49. “Wait, let these two kings play their game of thrones.” [Ser Stevron]
  50. “Ned stood at my side once more…but he is gone, and a hundred Whispering Woods will not change that.” [Catelyn]
  51. “I will mourn for Ned until the end of my days, but I must think of the living.” [Catelyn]
  52. “What have we fought for, if we are to put all back as it was before?” [Lord Bracken]

Thanks for reading!

How to Like Yourself More – Right Now

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The person under the most scrutiny from our judgmental, harsh human brains tends to be – our own selves. I am my toughest, most persistent critic, and I’m sure many others can relate to this.

How could we ever be happy and content with an overly critical voice constantly screaming insults throughout the day? It is difficult, that’s for certain.

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What can we do about this critic from within? How can we silence it and create a new, more positive voice? Having a compassionate, more kind voice in your own head takes practice, but it’s very possible if you take the time to reshape your thoughts.

1 – Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend.

Sometimes the way we speak to ourselves is absolutely cruel and unnecessary. Think of how you talk to a friend when he/she is in need versus the way you speak to yourself in difficult times. The responses are likely completely on opposite sides of the spectrum.

Harsh words to yourself like, “You look ugly,” “You’re so stupid,” and “You should just give up,” are all too common. How often to do say this to a friend? Probably never.

If you find yourself being overly-critical of the way you look, your habits, your words, etc., take a minute to calm down and talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend. Say things like, “You look fine,” “You’re just having a rough day,” and, “You can do this.”

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Would you personally hang out with a person who threw out degrading comments all day? If not, then you shouldn’t have to put up with it from yourself either.

Make a conscious effort to swap up that inner self talk and add in tons of tenderhearted statements.

2 – Talk to yourself like you would talk to a child or a pet.

Here I’m referring that embarrassing, high pitched, baby-like talk that you give your kids and animals. We all have our own personal pet/child language, but they all have the same underlying message of “I love you with all my heart.”

Go all in and spend five minutes in front of a mirror throwing out your most cheesy, childish compliments to yourself. “You’re so adorable, I love you, you are amazing and awesome, you’re so smart, I’m so glad you’re in my life!”

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You deserve as much love as the cute kitty above.

No holding back – it will feel terribly awkward and uncomfortable – but it will help you engrave more positive thoughts into your brain. And it will make you smile as well.

3 – Spend time with yourself.

Quality self-time is sure to open your eyes to the awesome person within. It’s great to be around others, but sometimes it’s necessary to hang out alone with your own thoughts.

This quiet time alone is often something most people avoid – because it can be uncomfortable at first. In today’s world, we’re surrounded by stimulation to silence our inner voices. Social media, texting, talking with others, working too much – all of these serve as distractions from our thoughts. It can be scary to plan time away from the loudness.

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Journal, take a long walk, go see a movie alone – the possibilities for a date with yourself are endless, and will not be as bad as you might think. Once you take the time to slow down and get to know who you really are, deep down, you will start to think, “Hey, I kind of like this person.”

You also might surprise yourself.

4 – Say and repeat affirmations, in a mirror, at least twice per day.

Affirmations are awkward – it’s the truth. But they do grow less and less awkward with time and practice. And after awhile – you’ll even find yourself speaking those corny affirmations inside your head each time you see your own reflection.

The first time I tried to speak a short list of affirmations in the mirror, I couldn’t. I stood there and stared at myself and started crying. I physically could not get the words to leave my throat. But I tried, everyday, morning and night. And then one day, one single affirmation came out. That’s all I managed that day, but it was a huge milestone for me.

Work at it and create your own personal list of affirmations based on what your insecurities and sensitive spots are. Read that list out loud and in front of your reflection everyday and you will start to believe the words on the list.

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Here are some of my personal affirmations as an example:

I’m a good person
I am enough
I am good enough
I’m proud of myself
I love my body
My body is strong
I am smart
I am creative
I am kind
My smile can make others smile
I love who I am
I am unique


If you are tired of talking to yourself with hatred and condemnation, please give the items in this post a try. Give it time, and your self talk will grow positive and uplifting.

Thank you for reading this post and please know that you deserve to be treated with kindness from everyone – especially yourself.

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Have an amazing day!

Carly Twelve

Life Lessons from Super Mario Bros.

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Through the years I’m sure we’ve each had the pleasure of playing some version of Nintendo’s Super Mario Bros. Originally released in 1985, this game is based on a plumber trying to save a princess from an evil creature. The plumber travels through unique worlds, each with odd obstacles, all to find and face the final monster holding the princess captive.

(Even if you are an adult, I would suggest playing this game if you’ve never had the luxury ;))

Whatever the main goal of the game may be, there are a couple of deeper meanings that can be pulled from the missions in Super Mario Bros. 

Here’s what can be learned from playing this game:

[Disclaimer: this posts includes my own opinions. None of this is stated directly in this video game. The points here are just what I, myself, concluded from the game as a whole. I am not part of Nintendo, I own no rights, etc. Just a fan.]

1 – No matter where you come from, you can be a hero.

Mario and Luigi are plumbers. They’re not royalty or knights of the kingdom, or any other typical heroic figure.

Yet, regardless of social status and career placement, these brothers take initiative to save this damsel in distress.

Our “status” in life is irrelevant. We are all capable of the most amazing accomplishments. Whether it’s saving a princess or some other (more modern) life mission, our places in society have nothing to do with our heroic ventures.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a plumber, a dentist, an accountant, or a waitress – heroism is much deeper than whatever career label society has planted on your forehead.

2 – Money is instrumental, but never the goal. 

Throughout playing the game, money (or finding coins) helps you stay alive long enough to complete your mission. In picking up coins, you’re able to earn more lives and sometimes buy enhancements to help you better defeat the enemy.

Though it’s helpful, money is never the mission itself. The point of the game is to save the princess. If you find yourself sidetracked, only searching for coins, you’ll never advance enough to actually make the final rescue. You’ll only be wondering around, never doing what you were designed to do.

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This relates to our real, human lives perfectly. Our mission in life should never be to “make money.” Yes, money helps take care of family, buy fun things, and pay the bills. But financial gain should only ever be seen as an instrument or tool in advancing our missions in life.

If money is the goal, happiness will never come.


So that’s two important life lessons that can be taken from this fun, adventurous little video game.

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Again, if you’ve never played Super Mario Bros., you’re really missing out. 😀

Thank you for reading this post and I hope you have an amazing day.

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Never stop chasing your princess!

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Quotes from ‘A Game of Thrones’ // Bran’s Perspective

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A Game of Thrones gives us the first look into George R. R. Martin’s world of knights, dragons, and fantasy. Here are the best 38 quotes from A Song of Ice and Fire, Book One: A Game of Thrones, from the chapters of Bran’s perspective:

(Disclaimer: I am not affiliated with the author or publisher of this novel. I do not own these words. I am just another fan.)

  1. “It was not courage. This one was dead of fear. You could see it in his eyes, Stark.”[Jon]
  2. “Jon’s eyes were a grey so dark they seemed almost black, but there was little they did not see.” [Narrator]
  3. “Can a man still be brave if he’s afraid?” [Bran]
    “That is the only time a man can be brave.” [Ned]
  4. “If you would take a man’s life, you owe it to him to look into his eyes and hear his final words. And if you cannot bear to do that, then perhaps the man does not deserve to die.” [Ned]
  5. “…you must take no pleasure in the task, but neither must you look away. A ruler who hides behind paid executioners soon forgets what death is.” [Ned]
  6. “Born with the dead, worse luck.” [Man in Ned’s Crew]
  7. “Easy to say, and harder to do.” [Ned]
  8. “Give me honorable enemies rather than ambitious ones, and I’ll sleep more easily by night.” [Jaime]
  9. “You should think less about the future and more about the pleasures at hand.” [Jaime]GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA
  10. I told you, the answer is flying, not crying. How hard can it be?” [The Crow]
  11. “There are different kinds of wings.” [The Crow]
  12. Every flight begins with a fall.” [The Crow]GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA
  13. “Choose. Fly or die.” [The Crow]
  14. “Wings unseen drank the wind and filled and pulled him upward…” [Narrator]
  15. “The stories are, before me and after me, before you too.” [Old Nan]
  16. “Fear is for the winter.” [Old Nan]
  17. “Fear is for the long night, when the sun hides its face for years at a time, and little children are born and live and die all in darkness…” [Old Nan]
  18. “The crow had promised him that he could fly.” [Narrator]
  19. “Spare me your false courtesies…” [Tyrion]
  20. “…so long as he did not hear them he was safe.” [Narrator]
  21. “Blood for blood.” [Theon]
  22. “His lean, dark face had a hungry look to it.” [Narrator]
  23. “Folly and desperation are ofttimes hard to tell apart.” [Maester Luwin]
  24. “A man’s worth is not marked by a ser before his name.” [Maester Luwin]
  25. “Let them mock, Bran thought. No one mocked him in his bedchamber, but he would not live his life in bed.” [Narrator]
  26. “The godswood was an island of peace in the sea of chaos.” [Narrator]fullsizeoutput_ccd
  27. “I don’t want to go. I have to.” [Robb]
  28. “She had gone south, and only her bones had returned.” [Narrator, on ‘Lady’ the direwolf]
  29. “You asked them and they’re answering. Open your ears, listen, you’ll hear.” [Osha]
  30. “Who do you think sends the wind, if not the gods?” [Osha]
  31. “So be it. I’ll wear my irons and hold my tongue. A man who won’t listen can’t hear.” [Osha]
  32. “There are some who call my order the knights of the mind.” [Maester Luwin]
  33. “Bran, when a man fights, his arms and legs and thoughts must be as one.” [Maester Luwin]
  34. “You must put these dreams aside, they will only break your heart.” [Luwin]
  35. “He was not made for chains.” [Bran, on ‘Summer’ the direwolf]
  36. “Fear can fever a man’s mind and give him queer thoughts.” [Luwin]
  37. “The man who trusts in spells is dueling with a glass sword.” [Luwin]
  38. “They were a people dark and beautiful, small of stature, no tall than children even when grown to manhood. They lived in the depths of the wood, in caves and crannogs and secret tree towns. Slight as they were, the children were quick and graceful.” [Luwin, on the children of the forest]

Thanks for reading. I hope you enjoyed this list. Please look out for the next posts containing more quotes from these amazing novels.

Quotes from “Jane Eyre” by Charolette Bronte

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Here is the PDF of all the quotes from Jane Eyre that stuck out to me. Many of them I used in my five part post about what this novel taught me about life. This PDF is quotes only – no insights, no comments, just straight quotes from the book.

Thanks for stopping by!

Jane Eyre Quotes

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Invaluable Life Advice from Jane Eyre (Part Five)

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This is the fifth and final post providing a collection of quotes from Jane Eyre. My hope is to read between the lines and spread the wisdom in these pages crafted by Charolette Brontë in 1847.

Here are the other four parts in case you missed them:

Part One
Part Two
Part Three
Part Four

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1 – Never let pride stand in the way of doing what’s right. 

“I was not heroic enough to purchase liberty at the price of caste.” Narrator (Chapter 3)

Doing the right thing is often difficult because it can come with backlash and judgement from those around us. However, it’s important to remember that facing moments of backlash is nothing compared to the regret that comes with neglecting to do the right thing.

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2 – You are strong enough to handle what the world has dealt you. 

“Yet it would be your duty to bear it, if you could not avoid it. It is weak and silly to say you cannot bear what it is your fate to be required to bear.” Helen Burns (Chapter 6)

“Why was I always suffering, always brow-beaten, always accused, forever condemned? Why could I never please? Why was it useless to try to win anyone’s favor?” Narrator (Chapter 2)

When going through hard times, it can often feel as if the universe is out to get us. Always remember that you are strong enough to face whatever is thrown your way.

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3 – Do not let day to day, petty issues infect your mood.  

“I can so clearly distinguish between the criminal and his crime; I can so sincerely forgive the first while I abhor the last; with this creed, revenge never worries my heart, degradation never too deeply disgusts me, injustice never crushes me too low. I live in calm, looking to the end.” Helen Burns (Chapter 6)

Looking at the big picture in life helps to reduce the significance of the daily stressors that can seem life altering in the moment. Always remember the most important things in life and don’t let anything less get you down.

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4 – Do not let fear get in the way of your goals and dreams. 

“The fear of failure in these points harassed me worse than the physical hardships of my lot; those these were no trifles.” Narrator (Chapter 7)

“It is a very strange sensation to inexperienced youth to feel itself quite alone in the world; cut adrift from every connection, uncertain whether the port to which it is bound can be reached, and prevented by many impediments from returning to that it has quitted. The charm of adventure sweetens that sensation, the glow of pride warms it; but then the throb of fear disturbs it;” Narrator (Chapter 11)

Fear is often the biggest obstacle in the path of reaching our dreams. “What if I fail?” “Will my friends laugh at me?” “Will I be taken seriously?” “Am I good enough?”

Fear is understandable and everyone faces it at some point in life. Yet that feeling of being afraid to fail does not mean you shouldn’t pursue your goals. On the other hand, it probably means you need to go for it. Don’t let fear hold you back, just as Jane continues on her journey is this novel even though she is scared to venture out.

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5 – Don’t try to be like everyone else – humans are flawed.

“Such is the imperfect nature of man – such spots are there on the disk of the clearest planet; and eyes like Miss Scatcherd’s can only see those minute defects, and are blind to the full brightness of the orb.” Narrator (Chapter 7)

“Most things free-born will submit to anything for a salary;” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 14)

The goals others have, the items they crave, and the lifestyle they dream of are all irrelevant. What matters is what you want, what your goals are, and how you strive to reach those goals. Advice from others is great, but you should always remember that everyone else has a different dream in mind. One person’s path to success with look absolutely different than another.

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6 – The heart’s feelings are not easily changed.

“I could not unlove him now, merely because I found that he had ceased to notice me – because I might pass hours in his presence, and he would never once turn his eyes in my direction – because I saw all his attentions appropriated by a great lady, who scorned to touch me with the hem of her robes as she passed – who, if ever her dark and imperious eye fell on me by chance, would withdraw it instantly…” Narrator (Chapter 18)

“There was nothing to cool or banish love in these circumstances, though much to create despair.” Narrator (Chapter 18)

“Blasphemy against nature! Every good, true, vigorous feeling I have, gathers impulsively round him. I know I must conceal my sentiments; I must smother hope; I must remember that he cannot care much for me.” Narrator (Chapter 17)

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When heartbroken or craving someone intensely, feeling angry at yourself is never a good response. The heart is going to want people and things that are not good for you, not right for you, or completely out of your reach. Don’t let yourself be mad at your heart for wanting things it shouldn’t. It’s natural to feel this way, so talk about it, write about it, discuss it with a friend, and grow from it.

Anger will never force your heart to change its desires.

7 – Words are much more painful than “sticks and stones.”

“Better tire my limbs than strain my heart…” Jane to herself (Chapter 25)

“And with that answer, he left me. I would much rather he had knocked me down.” Narrator (Chapter 34)

“My rest might have been blissful enough, only a sadheart broke it.” Narrator (Chapter 28)

“I so dreaded a reply that would crush me with despair. To prolong doubt was to prolong hope.” Narrator (Chapter 36)

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Words can cut deep and wound the soul. We all have scars on our hearts from the harsh words others have spoken. Always be careful what you say to others because a physical wound will heal, but a wound to the mind can last a lifetime.

8 – The mind holds the most beauty.

“Your mind is treasure, and if it were broken it would be my treasure still…” Mr. Rochester to Jane (Chapter 27)

“My very soul demands you…” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 37)

“…all the sunshine I can feel is in her presence.” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 37)

“I have worn it since the day I lost my only treasure…” Mr. Rochester on his bronze scrag (Chapter 37)

“…this obvious absence of passion in his sentiments toward her, that my ever-torturing pain arose.” Narrator (Chapter 18)

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Society is quick to value beauty as a result of the way people look. But the true beauty is found in the soul or the mind; the way a person treats others, the intelligence he/she holds, the quirks that are apparent, the music that she listens to when she’s sad – all of this is what leads to real beauty.

Instead of trying to look more appealing on the outside, we should strive to better our minds because that’s where the true value lies.

9 – Learn from those you admire.  

“…she was qualified to give those who enjoyed the privilege of her converse a taste of far higher things.” Narrator (Chapter 9)

“…she was smart in all she did, and had a remarkable knack of narrative…” Narrator (Chapter 4)

“What a smile! I remember it now, and I know that it was the effluence of fine intellect, of true courage…” Narrator on Helen Burns (Chapter 7)

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When that feeling of deep admiration hits, it must have some reasoning behind it. Why do you admire certain people and not others? Take the time to evaluate the feelings and learn from those you hold in high regards. Though these people are only human, they may possess qualities you wish to gain yourself. We typically learn best from others.

10 – Never lose hope. 

“…I believed in the existence of other and more vivid kinds of goodness, and what I believed in I wished to behold.” Narrator (Chapter 12)

The world can be a terrible place sometimes, but we can’t let the darkness overtake our hopes of finding happiness. No matter what happens, don’t lose your faith in the world and its people. Goodness does exist if only we can learn to look past the dark.

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Thank you for reading this post. I appreciate it and would love to hear comments about what others see in this amazing novel.

Carly Twelve

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This Will Make You See the Good in Difficult People

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Everyday, all around the world difficult people find their way into conversations, debates, and events. When out and about, it’s highly likely you’ll encounter one of these irritating, demanding humans. It’s not pleasant.

But here’s the thing – every single one of us has been guilty of this difficult behavior at some point in our lives. Does that behavior make us terrible people? No. Of course not.

Deep down, we all have goodness within our souls. Even the most grumpy, rude person has some good inside. Be patient, and take the time to try this stuff out – and you just might view the difficult person in a new, positive light.

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1 – Consider the possibility that he/she could just be having a rough day. 

Think back to your worst day ever – maybe it involved car problems, an intense breakup, or a series of small misfortunes that added up throughout the day and lead to insanity. Whatever happened on your worst day – I’m betting you were not the most pleasant person to deal with in those unfortunate 24 hours.

How would you feel if the version of yourself on your worst day ever was the lasting image other people had of you? No go backs, no quick changing of opinions – just stressed out, difficult you as the only you people around you remember.

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It’s not fair, is it? If we don’t want to be judged on our worst days, we shouldn’t judge others on their worst days, either. Give difficult people the benefit of the doubt. Life can be challenging, so maybe the difficult behavior is rooted in a difficult situation.

Next time someone gives you trouble, jump to the conclusion that he/she is just having a rough day.

2 – Picture all the things he/she could be facing – sickness, financial issues, relationship problems, etc.

This ties in with the first point and takes it to the next level of consideration. Sometimes it helps to make up a bizarre story to explain the irritating behavior of others.

We never know what someone is going through, and in most cases at work or out in public, we’re not going to find out. And that’s totally okay. But it’s important not to just assume that the person has a terrible personality. Think about what could have happened earlier in that person’s day – he could have wrecked his car and had to walk to a gas station three miles away, along the way losing his wallet and getting bitten by a rattlesnake.

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We may never know the issues that others face, but if we consider that they may be having hard times in their personal lives, we can skip the unfair assumptions.

Negative behavior usually is the result of unfortunate experiences. Take this into account when judging human behavior.

3 – Imagine him/her as a little toddler.

At some point in life, we were all innocent, little kids. Even the most obnoxious human was once an adorable child. Picture the difficult person in front of you as toddler, just learning to dance – smiling, laughing…innocent.

Somewhere inside of each of us, that little innocent human still remains. Even if it’s buried deep, keep picturing the young versions of the people around you. It will open your eyes to the goodness deep down.

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4 – Remember every moment of goodness you’ve seen from him/her.

There’s bound to be a time – no matter how irritable he/she generally makes you – when this difficult person has shown a glimpse of his/her good side. Maybe it was a faint smile, a kind word, or a moment of vulnerability. As tiny and simple as this moment may have seemed – never forget it. Hold it close and play it over and over again whenever this person returns to the rougher side of himself/herself.

5 – Notice what topics make him/her light up.

Grandkids, pets, hobbies, siblings – these are all potential topics that can turn someone’s mood from distant to personable. It will defiantly take some digging and hard conversation work, but most people have soft spots that seem to bring out their good sides.

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Take note of these soft spots and expand on them each time you talk to these people. It takes time, but if you continue to touch on these positive topics, each encounter with the difficult person will grow less and less dreadful.

6 – Note his/her insecurities.

There is nothing that makes someone as unpleasant as when he/she is drowning in those pesky insecurities. We all have them and they’re all unique to each person.

Some people grow completely detached and others take frustrations out on the world. Whatever the method of defense is, always take a minute to acknowledge it to yourself (both for your own issues and others you must face).

Insecurities are unfortunate, yet they can bring us together. Most of us can relate to body image insecurities, financial insecurities, and career insecurities. Let’s change our responses from defensive to connective.

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Next time you face someone obviously upset over a personal insecurity, take a minute to relate and say, “Hey, I understand. I feel that way, too.” And watch the defensive monster turn into a normal human being.


Learning to see the good in others can change your outlook on the world. As with most things, it takes time and effort. You must try. And it’s worth it. Not only will you learn the stories of others around you, you will start to see the good in your own self.

Thank you so much for reading this post. Please comment below if you’ve ever had an enlightening experience with a person you thought was terrible – and he/she turned out to be not-so-bad.

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Have a great day, and look for the good in others.

Carly Twelve

Being Content Does Not Mean You Are “Settling”

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When I discuss being content in life, it could be seen as I’m telling everyone to “settle” in life. Settling for something is different than being content.

To settle is to give up, to be content is to move on. 

Being content with your life means that you’re not stressing over wanting more – a better job, higher salary, nicer home, etc. It’s saying, “Hey, I have everything I need to be able to live.”

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Of course, striving to improve your surroundings is always a plus. But being content about where you are now means you aren’t putting your happiness on hold for “better days.”

We all have the power to be happy right now, no matter where we are in life. Happiness comes from within. So instead of saying, “I’ll be happy when I graduate college,” “I’ll be happy when I move out of this town,” or “I’ll be happy when I lose 40 lbs,” tell yourself that you are happy now.

Life is too short to put happiness on hold for “better days.” Enjoy where your are in life, every step of the way. It’s all part of your awesome, personal storybook.

Settling is a pity party, contentment is having an open mind.

When someone settles, typically he/she is telling his/herself that nothing better exists for the life he/she lives. “This is it,” is the mindset. Poor me. 

When you are content with life, your mind is open to more opportunities. It’s hopeful of the future because no matter what happens, you know you’ll be happy within. You’ll be confident in trying new things and taking advantage of every moment in life because regardless of the outcome, your happiness will remain.

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Settling leaves you always wanting more, contentment will help you see more of what really matters.

Take a minute everyday to tell yourself that you are happy. You’re good with life and where you currently find yourself.

When you make an agreement with yourself to be content, right now, your eyes will open up to the world around. You’ll see more of what truly matters and what you cherish most.

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When you tell yourself, “I’m settling,” you’ll push aside the most important things in life to dream and regret the job you’ll never have, the body you’ll never get back, etc. You’ll find yourself bitter of what “could have been.” And in return, you’ll push away those you love because your internal happiness has been sacrificed to a list of “should haves.”

Being content is seeing the beauty around, regardless of if it’s a fantasy life or a normal, everyday scenario. How you feel inside is how you’ll see the world.

Settling is negative, contentment is positive. 

This is a simple, straightforward concept.

Say, “I’m settling,” and you’ll be bitter.

Say, “I’m content,” and you’ll be at peace.


I hope my rambling here has made some sense. I know the world could be much more generous if each of us makes the decision to be content – losing the greed, the anger, the frustration, and the regret.

For extra aid in living a content life, download the guide here:

The Guide to Contentment

Thank you for reading this post. Make the choice to be happy, because you do have the power.

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